The Importance of a Honeymoon
The Importance of a Honeymoon
Let’s face it, planning a wedding can be stressful. And expensive. And completely and totally all-consuming. There are vendors to book, invitations to address, parties to attend and a million other decisions along the way that pull your attention and have to be made.
So maybe it makes sense, to an extent, why more and more couples seem to be opting out of or postponing their honeymoon. With all the stress of wedding planning, combined with trying to still maintain and coordinate the stress of day-to-day life, it’s almost understandable that adding the honeymoon to the list of things to do may seem like a bit too much.
But that’s exactly why the honeymoon should be seen as a priority.
Look, weddings are great. They are fun and beautiful and an excellent opportunity to celebrate your love with those who care about you the most. But honeymoons? Those are actually about you as a couple. It is your chance to relax, refuel and tune out the rest of the world as you enjoy those first few days of wedded bliss in your own cocoon of happiness.
Making honeymoons a pretty important piece of the whole ‘getting married’ puzzle.
Wedding prep can be hard on relationships. No matter how in love you are or how prepared you feel to walk down that aisle, making all those big decisions and throwing all that money at this celebration can put a strain on you as a couple. In fact, it happens more than you might think – a wedding leading to more fights within the confines of a relationship than you have ever dealt with before. It’s only natural; the whole thing is a big deal. And getting there can feel like quite the journey.
So why wouldn’t you want something at the end of that journey to really look forward to? Sure, the marriage is the actual prize, but shouldn’t you want to start that marriage off on the right foot? Taking that time to really reconnect after the months of stressful wedding planning?
Your honeymoon doesn’t have to be exotic or last for months on end to be successful. Although, if you can pull that off – go for it! But it should be time you set aside after your wedding to disengage from everything else. No work. No parties with friends or household chores to attend to. Just you and your newly betrothed embracing your new status as a married couple.
Think about it. The real world will be beckoning you soon enough. There is no escaping the return to work or the responsibilities we all have in our daily lives. But there is an opportunity to shift your focus for a short period of time following the wedding; to let go of all the stress and tension that may have built up during the wedding planning stages and to embrace the opportunity to bask in the reasons you fell in love in the first place.
Don’t look at your honeymoon as an extravagance or something that can be held off until later. The truth is, you just don’t get that many opportunities in life to unplug and truly immerse yourself in each other. But right after a wedding? Everyone expects you to do just that. It is the one time, possibly in your entire lives, when no one will be looking for you to answer your phone or respond to e-mails or be otherwise available. This is your chance to focus on nothing but the love you chose to commit to. And to start your marriage off right.
So take that opportunity and make the honeymoon a priority when planning your big day. No one ever regrets spending a few extra days cocooned away with the person they love.
But plenty of people who decide to postpone or forgo the honeymoon, for whatever reason, do grow to regret not taking that chance when they had it.