Planning a Wedding WITH Kids
Planning a Wedding WITH Kids
We’ve all seen the issue popping up more and more lately: kid free weddings. Couples are opting for high-class events where they inform their guests to leave the wee ones at home, not wanting a crying baby to interrupt the fun of the evening.
Look, I get it. Kid free weddings can be a good time where everyone can let loose and not have to worry about their children – a luxury most parents don’t get all that often.
But when opting for a kid free wedding, you have to understand that not all of your guests will be on board with the idea. And if your wedding involves travel, babysitters are difficult to come by, or someone on your guest list has a brand new baby they aren’t yet ready to part with – you will have to understand that part of throwing a kid free wedding may mean that not everyone you want to attend will be able to make it.
On the flip side, there are ways to include children in the invite without completely losing the wedding vibe you were hoping to achieve. After all, let’s not forget that the flower girl and ring bearer have been integral parts of the wedding ceremony (and arguably the cutest additions to the wedding party) for decades. And when it comes to viral wedding videos, none get shared quite so often as little ones cutting a rug on the dance floor.
So let’s just say you decide having kids at your nuptials wouldn’t be so bad. How do you help to make sure they have as good a time as anyone else, and that their parents are still able to enjoy themselves without being too consumed by the child rearing?
One way to start is with a kids’ table at the reception. Talk to your wedding planner about fun and easy craft ideas you can have the kids work on during the celebration. You may even want to consider hiring a few local teenagers to help man the table and give parents a break while their kids are busy crafting. With safety scissors, glue and pictures of the happy couple – you might be surprised by some of the goodies your youngest guests create. And all that creating can actually keep them entertained for quite a while.
You could also have a dance contest for just the kids. It doesn’t have to take up a big chunk of your night – just a single song where your littlest guests get to show off their moves. If the winners get to then have a special dance with the bride and groom, they may be even more excited about giving it their all.
Kids will, of course, also always be excited about the dessert table. To them, a chocolate fountain or a candy station is pretty much as good as it gets. Make sure to make these areas accessible to the little ones, even if their parents are then working to keep them away from the sweets all night. Part of the beauty of not being mom or dad yourself is that you get to provide these special little treats every once in a while!
In most cases, your younger guests will start to disappear as the night goes on anyway. Most have bedtimes and parents that like to keep them on a schedule. So if your reception goes past 10 at night, it’s likely you’ll end up with a few kid free hours no matter what. Which means you might as well enjoy the kids you have in attendance while they are there. Let them be a part of the celebration; your wedding may end up being one they remember well into their own adulthood!