Rescheduling Your Dream Wedding
Rescheduling Your Dream Wedding
The recent government shutdown resulted in a lot of unexpected consequences – the kind people didn’t necessarily realize would occur until they were in the midst of happening. There were many couples, for instance, who had to completely rearrange their wedding plans when they learned the shutdown would keep them locked out of the national parks and monuments where they had originally decided to exchange their “I do’s”. There were others who had to fight licensing delays and worried whether there nuptials would even be considered legal at all.
It is not uncommon for couples to spend up to a year planning for their big day, so when everything falls apart at the very last minute – it is natural for panic to soon follow. The shutdown was the most recent example of what can go wrong with even the best laid plans, but it certainly isn’t the only catastrophe which could steal away your wedding. Fires, natural disasters and dire family medical emergencies can all place a dark cloud over what was meant to be such a special day; destroying venues, interfering with caterers and photographers, and sometimes even requiring a complete change of date.
So what should a couple do when their dream wedding seems to be falling apart at the seams? The first rule is to remain calm. As difficult as it may seem in the moment, nothing can be accomplished at the height of panic – so do whatever you can to keep a level head as you strive to work out the details.
If your venue seems as though it is now going to be a no-go, you have to assess how close you are to the intended date. A few weeks buy’s you time, but with only a few days – particularly if you have guests who have already started traveling – you need to scramble fast to find a viable alternative. Your best bet at that point may be to consider public parks or beaches where you could host your guests for a quick exchanging of vows.
While you may lose out on the vivid plans you had for flowers and seating arrangements, the most important thing is still being able to profess your love and commitment in front of those who care about you.
From there, look into local community centers, or even extra-hospitable friends, who might be willing to host you for a reception.
If your vendors are the ones falling through, recognize that finding others to do their job last minute may be a near impossibility. Ask unavailable vendors for referrals &/or if they have an associate to send instead of themselves.
Also, reach out to family and friends and see who might be willing to help. Perhaps you have an aspiring florist on your guest list, or a group of aunts who could band together to create a feast no one would know wasn’t professionally catered. Before giving up hope completely, compile your resources and allow those who love you most to help.
Sometimes no matter how much rearranging you manage to do though, the only real solution is to postpone the wedding. This can be especially true if someone close to either the bride or groom winds up in serious medical condition. While no one ever wants to consider allowing all the planning and deposits to go to waste, postponing is occasionally preferable to moving forward with a celebration that no one will be up for enjoying. If it turns out you do need to put a hold on your nuptials, allow the power of social media to spread the news. In such an emergency, you simply won’t have the time to call each and every guest – so make a general announcement online and implore those who care about you to spread the word if they can.
As depressing as losing your wedding can be, remember that a wedding is not nearly as important as a marriage. What matters is the two of you committing yourselves to each other, and one way or another – you will always be able to make that happen.