Do I have to do Save the Dates?
Do I have to do Save the Dates?
You’ve done it. The date is set and your venue selected – this wedding is actually happening!
Now, you’re sitting down making your list of to-do’s. At this point, you probably have anywhere from 6 months to a year before the big event, and you’re trying to plan out how everything has to happen between now and then.
That’s when most brides and grooms find themselves contemplating the necessity of sending out Save the Date cards. If you’re planning on sending out invites 6 to 8 weeks in advance, do your guests really need more warning than that? And even if they do, isn’t it just easier to post the date online and let the power of social media spread the word?
Well… no. Not only is that lazy planning (and you don’t want to be a lazy wedding planner, do you?) but it also completely robs you of the many benefits Save the Dates have to offer.
That’s right, there are legitimate benefits to Save the Dates.
First of all, it gets you into real planning mode. You wouldn’t send anyone a Save the Date that you weren’t actually planning on inviting to the wedding. So by sending out Save the Dates, you are first going to need to finalize your invite list. And believe it or not, having that finalized as early as possible can actually be a very good thing. It allows you to give vendors accurate numbers when talking about how many people you expect, and gives you an opportunity to start pricing out other aspects of your wedding.
Then there is the fact that the more advanced notice you can give your guests, the stronger the likelihood they will be able to attend your event. Sure, you could post the date online – but as soon as it disappears from their feeds, they are going to forget it. Not to mention, posting it online means forewarning a bunch of people you may not even be planning on inviting. But a beautiful photo-card they can leave on their fridge all year, complete with your smiling faces? That’s something they will look at every day, getting more and more excited about your nuptials as the date draws near.
Which, for the record, also means you are going to want to get on getting those engagement photos taken as soon as possible – because having those for your Save the Dates will make them all the more memorable. You might even want some for invitations or decor at the wedding.
Then there is the fact that Save the Dates tend to leave more room for creativity than formal invites. You aren’t sucked into the same rules of decorum as you are with invites, allowing you to infuse a bit more of your personality into your Save the Dates. Want to include a goofy picture of the two of you making faces at the camera? Do it! Thinking of theming your Save the Dates by turning them into movie tickets or including tiny props? Go for it! You aren’t really locked into anything when it comes to sending out Save the Dates – and your guests have no obligation to respond. Making this a fun exercise in sharing your love with those you care about, in whatever way feels the most natural to you.
While the process of collecting addresses and sending out Save the Dates may feel a bit tedious at first, you will be glad you already have those address lists put together when it comes time to send out your invites, and your guests will love having that extra reminder of the fun and exciting day to come. So set up those engagement photos as soon as possible, and then work on creating a Save the Date that will bring a smile to both you and your guest’s faces!