Wedding Day Don’ts
Wedding Day Don’ts
The day you have been preparing for over the last year (or realistically, for your entire life) is finally here! The dress is picked, the flowers arranged and all your loved ones have arrived to watch you commit your life to the person you love.
Life is so good!
But you would be surprised how many people ruin their own wedding days (or at least, seriously inhibit their ability to enjoy those days) by making these mistakes:
Don’t Charge Guests or Make Unreasonable Demands
There is a new wedding trend emerging that is anything but classy – brides and grooms are charging guests by the head for their meals on the big day. Some reports are even stating the young couples are finding ways to come out the other end of their wedding without having spent a cent – passing all those costs along to their guests. Look, you may have a big, dream wedding that you can’t afford, but this is not the way to fund it. Nor is it appropriate to try to mask this same effort by asking guests to forgo gifts, while making a “suggested” donation instead. Don’t throw a party you can’t afford, and don’t rely on your guests to foot the bill. Instead, be realistic about your budget – and invite only those people you truly want around when you celebrate one of the biggest days of your life. Then remember that in many cases, those people are already paying a fair amount just to come to your wedding.
Don’t Micromanage Your Vendors
In the months leading up to your wedding, you should absolutely do your due diligence when it comes to selecting vendors. Ask for references, look at portfolios and conduct interviews. Once you’ve selected the vendor for you, engage in meetings where you are clear about your wants and needs for the big day. Express your vision and do whatever you need to do in order to feel confident that your selected vendors are on board with that vision. But whatever you do, don’t extend that heavy involvement to your actual wedding day. This is the day for you to relax and enjoy the moment – to allow yourself to be focused on one thing only: the love you are there to celebrate. So on the big day, trust your vendors to come through on everything you have discussed. Give them the opportunity to work together as a team in order to fulfill your vision. You chose and hired them for a reason, so give them the leeway to do their jobs when it counts. You just focus on being happy and in love and be guests at your own wedding!
Relying on the In Person Thank You
Perhaps thank you notes aren’t your thing, and maybe you’ve heard before that extending an in person thank you alleviates the need for a written note. But when it comes to weddings, you’ve heard wrong. A handwritten thank you note is absolutely still a big deal in wedding etiquette, and not something that can be circumvented by personally walking around your wedding and thanking each and every guest. You should still absolutely thank as many people as you can in person for making it to your big day, but don’t count that as a fair replacement for an actual thank you note when it comes to their gift. Your guests have traveled, given up other plans, and purchased presents as a way of helping you to celebrate – keep that in mind as you pen those thank yous in the months to come. No matter how old fashioned you may think this practice is, it is still a key component of getting married. One for which there really is no other adequate replacement.